{"id":23022,"date":"2021-02-01T19:51:00","date_gmt":"2021-02-01T19:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.humnutrition.com\/blog\/?p=23022"},"modified":"2023-02-10T20:54:40","modified_gmt":"2023-02-10T20:54:40","slug":"how-often-should-couples-have-sex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.humnutrition.com\/blog\/how-often-should-couples-have-sex\/","title":{"rendered":"How Often Should Couples Have Sex?"},"content":{"rendered":"

When it comes to sexual satisfaction in relationships, one of the most common questions focuses solely on sex frequency. How often should couples have sex, anyway?<\/p>\n\n\n

According to sexologist Jess O\u2019Reilly, PhD<\/a>, there\u2019s no magic number when it comes to sex. With that in mind, we asked the relationship and We-Vibe sex expert<\/a> about all things sexual frequency for paired-up folks.<\/p>\n\n\n

Ahead, discover how to approach sex in your relationship, including the best ways to voice your preferences.<\/p>\n\n\n

Point Blank: How Often Should Couples Have Sex?<\/h2>\n\n\n

Remember: There\u2019s no hard and fast rule when it comes to how often you should have sex. Rather, when it comes to sexual satisfaction<\/a>, Dr. Jess says that quality<\/em> is the most important factor\u2014more so than quantity of partners or frequency of interactions.<\/p>\n\n\n

\u201cThat\u2019s not to say that frequency is irrelevant, as it can become a source of conflict. But it\u2019s possible to be fulfilled with low frequency and unfulfilled with high frequency,\u201d she adds. That\u2019s the thing: Sex frequency is a matter of personal preference.<\/p>\n\n\n

\u201cWhat works for one person won’t work for another, so there’s no sense comparing yourselves to your friends,\u201d she continues. \u201cYou can have sex once a day and be satisfied, or you can have sex once a year (or not at all) and be satisfied.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

Because of this, she emphasizes that determining your own sex balance that matters most.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Gay<\/figure>\n\n\n

What If My Libido Is Higher Than My Partner\u2019s (or Vice Versa)?<\/h2>\n\n\n

No matter whose libido<\/a> is higher, Dr. Jess says you can’t realistically presume your partner’s will\u2014or should\u2014match.<\/p>\n\n\n

\u201cYou can’t expect your partner\u2019s desire for sex to align with yours every day, week, month, or year over the course of a lifetime,\u201d she says. \u201cYour desire for sex will inevitably be misaligned at some point during your relationship, even if you want it with the same frequency today.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

It\u2019s that misconception\u2014that you and your partner must match\u2014that can turn sexual frequency (or lack thereof) into a bigger issue than it is. After all, like most things, everything comes down to having a clear conversation<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n

How to Discuss and Agree on Sex Frequency<\/h2>\n\n\n

Follow these tips if you need help agreeing on an ideal sex frequency with your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n

Start the Conversation<\/h3>\n\n\n

If you want to ensure that you\u2019re having sex with a frequency that works for you and your partner, Dr. Jess suggests:<\/p>\n\n\n\n